A failed relationship always brings heartache, especially if you have been married for a long time. If you are certain that your love for each other can be rekindled, getting advice on how to stop a divorce is by far a better choice to pursue.

So let us look at some techniques one can adopt to try and stop a divorce from happening to you:

There are four areas in which you should try to refrain from hurting each other, and those are reassurance, repeating that you love them over and over again, arguing and pessimism.

Reassurance is when you keep on promising each other that you will change. You promise you won't do the things that caused the rift in your relationship any more. It might work for a day, but empty promises never hold up because you are not addressing the root cause of the problem.

Telling each other over and over again that you love each other will also not work in the long term because here you will always get a chance to ask the question "if you say you love me, why did you do it?" Telling someone you love them without bearing the fruit of that love is shallow and will dissolve very quickly.

Arguments cause resentment and hurt feelings and should be avoided. Remember your children can hear your hurtful words and will confuse them even more.

Pessimism is also a real threat to your relationship. When both parties become like this, it is difficult to get them out of the spiral of thinking only negative thoughts about each other. You should rather try and concentrate on the positive aspects of the other person's personality.

The above is what not to do. Have a look at three positive and tested methods on how to stop a divorce:

Stop applying pressure, in other words stop criticizing them, stop complaining about every small detail and most importantly stop whining.

Agree with your partner in anything he or she says or does. This will instantly throw them off balance and will make them stop and listen to you for a change. If they have negative feelings, seem to agree with them as this will echo their words and they will realize what they are doing or saying.

Try to act happy. This could be the most difficult part of all the techniques because you are hurting. But if you preserve and consistently keep the status quo so to speak, then you will see that keeping it light instead of serious and heavy, will dissolve potential hot spots.

Small talk instead of serious talk will help both parties calm down for a while. You hold the key to happiness in your relationship, so first try the above methods.

If you really want to find out how to stop a divorce, rely on your gut instincts and always keep your side of the relationship honorable and upbeat.

We would love to know what you think and, if you were almost there. . . and stopped your divorce. . .give us som helpful hints on how you could start to repair your relationship.